I’ve been spending a lot of time on Reddit. For me it’s a place to find communities with similar interests and sometimes engage is conversation, read: Argue
I don’t get into pissant exchanges of jabs and name calling. I usually only engage with people who respond to me in that way. I ask questions, explain rational and give background. Many of my opponents continue to jab, but I’m persistent in my method. At some point they relent and start conversing. This alone is a victory.
I don’t usually win them over, but I feel I do succeed in sharing information and perspective. Maybe the other party doesn’t concede, but that’s not really the goal. The goal here is to get them to engage.
The difference between bickering and argument is subtle. The point of bickering is to get the other person to give up by means of harassment. Argument requires a bit more thought. I like asking hard questions and don’t accept easy answers.
I don’t give easy answers either. Some see this as showing off, maybe I am. But even if it is only for a brief moment, I’m getting people to talk with me instead of at me.
I may not change their mind, but I at least gave them something to think about.